On the passenger side of the engine compartment, just forward of the strut tower, you will find a lone connector. That is the fuel pump test connector. THe fuel pump relay should be right by it.
Are you saying you can't find ANY relays? There must be at least 10 relays on the passenger side of the engine compartment on that vehicle. If you can't find the relays, I suggest you take the vehicle to someone who knows what they are doing.